Friday, March 30, 2012

Beauty: Have You Met Nitraab - YouTube?

nitraab - YouTube

I absolutely love love Nitraa B on YouTube! Please check her out! I watch all her tutorials and reviews on Beauty Tips and YES! She is so so funny. I even chit chat with her via Twitter and she is really sweet. By far the best Beauty Guru on YouTube. She love Hello Kitty too...lol Her channel will leave you wanting more. I bumped into her page accidentally by searching a drug store foundation review and she popped on my screen. Once I checked out her channel I was very impressed on her skills and knowledge on makeup. If you are a makeup lover, hair, shoes, clothes, lashes, etc... whateva! Just check her out and subscribe. You will not be disappointed!

iValentina XOXo

Health: Great OB-GYN

The link below is for any women searching for a great OB-Gyn! I highly recommend Dr. Graf. You will feel comfortable and just safe being under her care. Her staff is amazing and very polite. So if you are in the Metro Detroit area searching. Check Dr. Graf out!



Home: Dr. Sherri Graf | Dr. Ebonie Harris | Medical Treatment | OBGYN Services | Southfield, MI 48034

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Planned Parenthood: One Day

This might be the hardest thing I'll ever blog about. Might be a healing thing for me to get it off my chest and express my thoughts on planning to be a mother. I can't imagine not having a mother but to possibly think you could be never become a mother is leveled out to the same grief. The fact that your womanhood won't fully be there because infertility. It's a hard pill to swallow being a young 24 year old/ newlywed. I just quicnhed when people ask "So when is the baby coming" or "Do you plan on having kids"? Ugh, I just hate it! Lol But its apart of life and I just response "Yeah, in a couple years", when really I want to scream "NO, my right ovary is F-word up"! I'm glad I can have a humor about it now, but really it's a scary thing to know your body tissues don't work like a normal human. Yet, after doing research, my condition won't lead to infertility or cancerous. Just the thought of being infertile scares me. Thank God that is not the case. I like to put this situation in perspective believing that God is preparing my body for pregnancy one day. Maybe not this year or next, but one day.
So funny because before I got married, I used to tell myself, "Nope, No Kids for Me". Now I'm married with so much time on my hands, and seeing my husband face light up when we talk about kids or "What If your son/ daughter act like you" moments. Marriage will certainly bring another side out of  you. You feel as if you want to nurture and care for everything breathing and moving around you.
I find myself reading more and more about planning for a baby/motherhood. I even told my husband today "I swear when I become a mother, I'm going to tell him or her 'do you know what I had to go though to conceive you'"!lol
I have an Amazing OB-Gyn Dr. Sherri Graf that is helping me every step of the way and I recommend everybody to her. I had some Rough ob-gyn's in the past and when I seen the ratings for Dr. Graf, I was happy to know she was Top Recommend by Most! I have so much Trust in my doctor, I Just know she is going to be the reason for our future baby. Been So crazy since I been on this journey bettering my health just planning for motherhood and future pregnancy. I love every moment of this journey because I know our child will be a 100% healthy.
I have to keep faith and win this battle. Can't help the way genetics works but I'm Blessed to be able to make a change and get healthy. One Day.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Friendship: Real Friends


Now that I'm older I start to realize that friends come and go out your life very easy. Just in that moment when you guys first met, you never thought you'll be friends "forever", now the table have turns and you are enemies. I hate that feeling when you are mad and angry with a friend and you wish you could pick up the phone to squash everything. Don't seem to work that easily, your heart is heavy thinking "wonder what so and  is up to"? Or "I wonder how so and so mother is doing"? Friends become your family and it hurts to know that you can never see them again. Why? Why can't we be friends? Why is that women can be civilized with each other? Jealousy, competitive, low self-esteem, selfish, and hateful. I could go on and on about the what cause a friendship to end. What about a friend that needs an intervention because they are addicted to alcohol and drugs? What about that friend that struggles with their sexuality? What about that friend that aways wanted to do better than you or yet try to bring you down? How do you deal with these types of friendship? Sometimes I think I have the answer but I'm not sure myself.

I started to realized that quote "You can never have Too Many Friends" is  not true! You CAN have Many Friends and you have to limit that amount Quick. In some of my own friendships, I struggle with friends that were jealous-hearted and fake. Faking the friendship is so obvious because things start to feel different and the phones call stop. I believe you can have "associates" that know of you, your lifestyle, where you live, or who you loving. But the associates don't know you mother or father name, your sister or brother name, your painful past, your favorite stuff. The associates don't know Nothing but what you Want them to know because guess what...Yall not cool like that anyways! That "stuff" in your life you call important is not important to them. Sometimes you have to be careful with the people you call "friends" because they can turn around in a heart beat and Tell All You Business! I had a friend like that and it took a Real friend to pull me over and say "hey you need to stop hanging with so and so because they putting your business out there"...Word? I thought we was "cool like that". So its true you have to limit the amount of people you share your problems, troubles and worries with.


It took for me to be at my lowest point and I seen the true colors of my friends that came around. Some faded away but in the craziest way, We grew together as sisters. How can you be close to 10 girls? Well it starts with loyalty and honesty. Although I have a Ton of friends, I got to know them on a personal level where I knew their strength and weakest. Yes we fuss and sometime fought... got a little physical but we love each other so much. I had to start being honesty with my friends, showing that I care for them. Getting together twice a month is enough for us and planning trips and events. The key to this friendship among 10 different girls is spending much time apart and checking up on each other. A lot of people can't understand why so many? Well that's where trust, honesty, and loyalty comes in. We vent to each other when times get tough. We cry with each other when times get rough. We laugh with each other when times get wild. We love one another for all times.

A friend is someone you can call on whenever you need them. A friend won't let you fall or lose ground. A friend will hold your hand through the darkest hour and the stormy weather no matter what. A friend will love you to death. A friend will call you just to say hello. Never should a friend put you down, belittle you, hate you, compete with you, or stab you in the back. A friend is going to give you their word. A promise can be kept within the friendship. A secret can be embedded in the soul for a lifetime. A friend is your world! Time will tell you who your Real friends are. Especially if you are growing in a different direction, if they are your true friends, they will Grow With You!

iValentina XoXo

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Beauty: Love My BH Cosmetics

Best Eyeshadow Ever!

Okay so I just had to do a Review/Blog on this eye shadow palette from http://www.bhcosmetics.com/ because it is sooooo worth the money and the quality is Great! I don't regret ever purchasing this product because it has been such a treat for me. As a beginner with makeup, I used to shop for my eyeshadow only at M.A.C. I soon realized that I was spending a lot of money on one eyeshadow. I use to pay $15 for one little M.A.C eyeshadow every so often and I just couldn't do it anymore. The colors are very vibrant and the matte colors are my favorite! I purchase my palette for $38 w/ tax and shipping. This is the 120 palette-1 and the web site offers naturals colors, matte colors, brushes, and lip gloss. This was the best investment for me, someone who love to change up eyeshadows and just to play around. I had a blast with this palette. The packaging in the mail came very nice and shipped to me less then 5-days! Check out the website because these colors are so amazing. There is even YouTube videos on this product. I get a lot of compliments from people about my eyeshadow and I thought maybe I will share my secrets with you eyeshadow lovers! Sometimes I don't have to prime my eyes with BH, so that is a plus for me when I'm on the run! BUT Priming is the Best thing to do when you want your shadows to stay on all day.

Don't judge the head wrapped! Up Late Playing around! lol
There you have it! My little Beauty Secret with BH http://www.bhcosmetics.com/!
Go Check them out watch reviews. It is soooo worth it. Don't get me wrong I'm a M.A.C girl but this is just the same! Luv Luv Luv it!

iValentina XOXO

Saturday, March 10, 2012

Marriage: Cooking with Love

Today has been a pretty awesome day for me. Although I took a nap for the second time but that was my fault for taking my pain meds so late! I cleaned my little apartment and did some really good cleaning in my kitchen. There is a feeling so great to me when my husband come, yes I'm talking about cleaning up before he comes home. Wifey duties* but really I  needed to clean since I'm feeling better and it takes a lot off the hubster! So Today was really funny because I usually would have a small meal prepare for Adam when he gets home from work but Adam eats and snacks at work so I knew it would of been a waste of time so off to Napville I went.
After thinking about what we should have for dinner, Adam thought maybe we should make Meatballs! Yum Yum Yum! I made Meatballs before for Adam but he was so pressed on "How should we make them"? He talked and talked about how to make them and I kept telling him "Olive Oil, Frying pan, Egg, Bread crumbs, onions, seasonings..etc. But Mr. Adam just wasn't having it so....we YouTube videos (for his curiosity) me on the other hand, was completely already aware of the steps to Meatballs.
Adam is all about everything turning out Perfect but he just wasn't so sure and I had to remind him that I cooked Meatballs for him before! lol Finally my hubster stared off into space in the kitchen and said "Maybe a Hamburger"? I looked back at him at and "no we are going to make Meatballs"!
We had all the ingredients and Yes we went to Work in that kitchen! The joy of cooking with Love was so great because I had to reassure my husband that everything was going to be okay. We just have to cook with love and make it happen!
After so many "No you doing it wrong", "wait you burning it", "that's not going to work", "Let me try it"...etc Finally everything came out Perfect! Even taste Great too! I was so pleased with the outcome!
Sometimes in a marriage you and your spouse have to come together and do Team Work. Working together and not alone is always a great way to share ideas. The communication in the kitchen can go up or down but when love is involved, everything turns out great! In this time with my Adam was the best moment we shared together because all we could do is laugh at our mistakes and cheer one another at our best. That is what I call cooking with love. Loving each other more and more each passing day, reassuring each other that everything is going to be okay knowing that we both don't cook much but we can make it a fun learning experience working together!

iValentina XOXO

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Love & Relationships: Advice on Finding Love

Love Intervention

"Love is the source of Life". I believe in this quote because it is very true that love is Everything we surround ourselves with. Finding love is not easy but  we somehow put on a smile and carry on saying things like "I'm happy to be single", "I can do everything myself, I don't need a man", "I'm independent" and so on. Really? Is that how you feel or are you blocking yourself off from this world where Love is everywhere? How do you want to live your life? Single? Independent? I have yet seen that woman and I hope a Love Intervention will help you break down those walls. Lets start with Self Love:

Peeling Back the Layers

Self-Love is the best way to start out the healing process. Lets peel back some layers and dig within the inner core of Why you won't give Love a chance". How long does it take for you to stop going to clubs, the bars, and other social gatherings? Don't get me wrong tho! Clubs and social gatherings are Fun with Friends and Birthday Parties. BUT some girls I know have to do it on a Every Week Day/ Weekend tip. That is not a cool look because Trust some ladies go looking for a man, boyfriend, fling, attention or and husband!LOL! (Know your self worth)! How many trips to the mall are you going make to find that  "freakum girl dress"? Yes, been there, done that. Guess what? I didn't find love that way. Let me not start on the "I'ma find me a God-Fearing man in Church"...ummm those are the worse ones! In My Opinion! I'm Just Saying, I heard too many stories about the "Church Route"...I'm not judging if thats where you prefer or found a special someone...My Advice is to Be Caution. Reason why? Umm, lets just say there is no such things in finding the "Best" man in the church...to me they are borderline "rushy". Like theres some issues that are deep with the Find a Man in the Church Route...my opinion. Maybe there is some great ones in there...maybe lol. 

So here my experience when it comes to love. Self-Love as I see it means...Focusing on ME! Finding my "Happy"(another one of my recent Blog you should check out). When I wasn't looking for Love, somehow Love came and found me. I had to learn how to love myself and building a strong relationship with God. Its funny because, once I put my trust in God Everything fell into place. With Self-Love you have to get raw and peel back the layers that are troubling you. If you were hurt in a past relationship, learn to take time to heal and get over the heartbreak. Don't dwell on the Old Love that is not going to work for you. Peel back whatever layer that is covering your heart. Breathe. Take your take and enjoy life. Love will always be there waiting...You just have to be patience and wait til you are ready to get back out there! The Dating World that is!   Remember its okay to Love...its a source of Life.

iValentina

Post Surgery Recovery: wk 3

Progess is Recovery!
Thank God today is much better then the first couple of weeks! Week 3: is a much better week for me because I have a little movement in my arm I'm not on bed rest, I can stop asking my husband to do this, do that for me. Even tho I know Adam don't mine helping me out. The pain is fading really slow which is a good thing because I thought the pain was going to last forever. Today I was able to lift a few things but not too much because I don't want to over work my arm. Nurse Van Tessal came by today and I must say I was upset because she came too early and I know it takes me 30 minutes in the shower now to remove bandages and tape markings. I just hate having people wait on me because I know Nurse Van Tessal is on a time limit per home she have to visit. Yet my wonderful Nurse didn't mind not one bit that she had to wait for me. She is so sweet, by far the sweetest nurse I ever met. She really knows how to make me and my family feel comfortable as if she knew us for years, she even love my "animal kingdom" of 3 cats and 2 dogs. She too is an Animal Lover!lol My animals even like her so that is a major plus to me! Every time Nurse Van Tessal is with me, I feel normal because i know she is working with other patients that are just like me, with my same condition. She tells me great stories of her life, family and friends. I even share great stories about my future with her...Every hospital needs a nurse like Van Tessal. She has a warm personality that is easy to get to know and love. She makes me laugh at times I should be scared that she is about to care for my injuries. I just love her energy!

Nevertheless, she is an awesome nurse and I'm thankful to have her around helping me and my family out. Caring for someone after post surgery is a hard task but I must say my husband and my mom have been doing a great job. It takes a lot of patience to deal with someone who is in a lot of pain but they sure know how to handle me.  The fact that my mom been a nurse for over 30 years is just a major plus in my life. She has been caring for me in the most careful way as possible all my life. My husband is Amazing and I just love him so much for working hard caring for me day in and day out. His patience is something that must be a gift because I really don't know how he do it, then go to work 8 hrs EVERYDAY, then come home, clean, cook, bathed me, and dress me...Wow! Love him for Everything!

This has been a better week for me and I look forward for many more!

iValentina XoXo

Monday, March 5, 2012

Find Your "Happy"

"Lord I Lift My Hands to You"
Something came over me today about what makes me happy, and how did I find that "happy". So I ask you, what and how did you find your "Happy"? Lets define the term "happy" first, Happy is a apart of our everyday five senses. I challenge you to zone yourself out from the Internet social world and to sit alone without any distractions and ask yourself these questions just when you feel as if life is a struggle, life is too hard or "why me". You have to think really hard about this because it's easy to say, "Oh my family, friends, career, boyfriend or husband makes me Happy"! Not the answer I was searching for. Try that moment when you are alone and you start to draw, sing, dance, act, rap, jog, and listen to music. Did you find your "Happy" zone in those moments? Well let me share with you how I found my "Happy". I hope this inspires you.

My "Happy" zone is in the Lord. I Found my love for Christ and the most trying time in my life. He came to my aide in the time of need. I thank the Lord for that each and everyday because I never knew how the Lord works til I got on my knees and prayed. I prayed hard and long in tears and this comforting feeling I got afterward was unbelievable...therefore, I become a believer in what a prayer can do. Yes this is my Testimony! My Happy is the Lord! Especially in my gospel music. Every time I zone out with my Pandora station strictly on Gospel music, it restores alot in my soul and I Love it. I call this "My Happy" because all the negative things I feel don't ever exist in this happy zone. I Rejoice today, tomorrow, the next day, next month because of this great comfort of knowing that the Lord is on my side and in my corner. Whenever I need Him, He is there for me without a doubt. I can never doubt his work because of the change he made in my life. It just amaze me how the Lord gave so much for me and I owe a honest living to Him. The Sacrifice He made is enough for my to say "okay, I made mistakes because I'm human, I seen the work of You Lord, For you have capture my heart and I am Yours Forever". He went the distance for me and that is so awesome therefore my Happy is forever in Him.

I never been the type to force religious on anyone, but I just want people to know its okay to take a leap out on Faith. Accepting Jesus Christ as your Savior is a hard step many can't press to do, but if there is ever a time in your life you felt that "Happy" moment, what is the first thing you say? "Thank You Jesus" or my favorite "I'm Blessed". lol Take a leap in Faith or Spiritually and you too will find the comfort of the Lord.

iValentina XoXo